I really don't see the R with OM lasting that long, though I could be wrong. The only thing he has over me (and granted, it's a big thing) is the ES (emotional support) that he has provided my W. I lacked in this dept big time, and am now trying to show her I can be that person for her with the small interactions we have. I think she sees a lot of change, but certainly won't admit it, address it, etc.
Their R has lasted 4 months now and is apparently still going strong. I'll wait it out until either she remarries or someone else comes along for me. Hopefully neither of these things will occur, and we'll get back together someday and have a stronger M because of these hardships.
