I want to add that no, he CAN'T see how much it hurts you. Lisa, all he can think about right now is his anger with himself, his fear that this is who he is, and his shame over it all.
Sugar, try to put yourself in his shoes: he shared something very personal and humiliating with you, and now you are angry and hurt. Of course you are! But he CANNOT deal with it right now. He probably feels like you are punishing him, and he's punishing himself enough, his anger shows that. Lisa, if you want to save your M, I think that you need to put your own feelings aside on this issue. I'm not saying to forget about yourself - taking care of you and your kids remains #1 - but do not talk to him about how bad you feel about this issue. I really think it will just push him away further.
Have you thanked him for being honest with you? That was actually a huge step for him, as it is for any addict. If you want him to keep telling you what's going on, you'll have to be supportive of him.
You've been through the wringer with this guy, Lisa, and I would totally understand if you've had it. At the same time, if you decidet to recommit to saving your M, then I do think it can be done - but it will be tough. Even so, I think you have a better chance now than ever before b/c he's admitted to this problem.
Love, Nicola
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