Okay, quick update. Not sure what to do, if anything.
W filed for a hasty dissolution on Friday, I found out yesterday. This means in 60 days I can/will be divorced and there isn't anything I can do to stop it.
I'm at a loss. She told me she hates me, there is nothing about me as a man that she admires, she doesn't want to be with me and will never be with me. She told the kids yesterday morning that "daddy and I need to be apart, daddy was mean to mommy". W came home from the gym, said we need to talk, dropped all that venom on me and then said, "let's talk to the kids". I told her I needed a minute and she said she didn't, that she would talk to them with me or without me. Nice.
That broke something in me. My 6 year old daughter climbed up on my lap, grabbed my face, looked me in the eyes and asked, "why do you and mommy have to breakup, why can't you be nice to mommy?"
There was so much I wanted to say but how do you say anything to a 6 year old girl.
The kids were/are all busted up now. After the kids left W told me all that her attorney told her she can expect to get from this, how I'm going to pay out an incredible amount of money each month and on and on.
I did talk to an attorney late yesterday. I didn't know what to do. The attorney said it will be rough, there is nothing I can do to stall or stop it, but it isn't going to be as bad financially as I was told. Basically, W's attorney is telling her these things to try to ease her mind about future concerns so she will go through with it, and the attorney gets paid on the back end from the divorce settlement. Slimey, in my opinion.
I really am at a loss. I have no alternative at this point.
Since the 4th of July trip and all the drama surrounding it, W seems to have flipped totally, a complete 180 on her part compared to where we were before the trip.
It's so confusing. We were at SIL's house for a birthday party. After a few hours SIL comes over to me and whispers in my ear, "who is she?". I told SIL that W has a lot on her mind. SIL responded with, "W seems to have lost her mind, she is different from even a few weeks ago". I didn't respond to that, I didn't know how but it worked out as one of the kids ran up and interrupted us.
Confusing times for everyone involved right now. Sorry for the downer.
On the upside, my surgery is in 2 days! Finally getting my wheel fixed so I can get back up and running. I can't wait.
