I am sorry that this is where you are at this time. However, once you reach this point -
As much as I WANTED to be married to you, I realize now that I no longer NEED to be, nor can I, knowing how you feel about me and knowing the things that you've chosen to do.
you have "done the work" to know if it is time to go. If you can truly go with no regrets then you are ready. Not that anyone WANTS to prepare themselves to leave. Be prepared to have regrets on your children's behalf. However, that is different than having regrets about your part in things. Sometimes when my children have Christmas with one parent instead of two, when a form says "Spouse" and the name I write on th line is not the same as the "parent" of the child whose form it is........I regret the divorce on behalf of my children BUT I don't regret choosing the divorce nor how I got to the place to have to choose it. Strangely, my ex-H is in a bit of a better place now and says he "understands" why I had to leave and believes that it was right for the children (he will flip-flop on this next week but I choose to believe that this kind of statement represents the part of him that I fell in love with).
Good luck Choc and keep us in the loop once in a while.
