YA know I read your posts and I get the impression that you might want it all your way.
I am not trying to be mean to you but it sounds one way to me.
You want a relationship with her that includes physical intimacy and a life together but only on your terms. She has talked, and even pressured you for a permanent R(marriage) but you are not budging.
You said she is religious and holds these things In high regaurd.
Im'e thinking, to her you wanting to marry her tells her that you truly love her. She might not feel that love with you right now. She is telling you flat out what it would take for her to get rid of the other Guy. I feel she might be looking for someone that wants the same things she does IE: a permanent commitment.
Maybe she isn't using this guy. Maybe she is interested, especially if he wants the same things in life.
You trying to analyze what her pastor will say kind of tells me you want it all your way and a good R doesn't work that way.
I do feel she still loves you thats why the secrecy But that she doesn't know if she can stay with you givin what she wants in life also.
It is a two way street.
Think about it.
JAK
Also: The A 1 year into the R might have been because you didn't want anything permanent either. Maybe she was testing the waters.
Just my OP.
jak
Last edited by jak58; 07/24/0702:48 PM.
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