A friend of mine, offboard, emailed me about how our W's begin to equate happiness with people and things...not from within themselves.
I agree with this statement. It is amazing when you sit back and can see this so clearly. I know our W's need to figure this out on their own, but it is hard to not want to walk next to them and help them struggle through all of this. I have to admit it has gotten a lot easier since she filed.
My W received my parenting plan and my thoughts about asset division yesterday. She had some concerns about the parenting plan that we will need to work through. I think her biggest concern is....dare I say this.... herself... She was worried about some of the times that I had put down because she did not want to be frustrated and mad at me because our kids might be crabby when she would get them from me. She was also not thrilled that she would have to find some childcare for our girls when they would be transitioning to my custody once a week. She also does not like the idea of splitting her stash of money with me. Isn't D beautiful???(I'm just kidding, this sucks)
I had a few phone calls yesterday from friends. One of which was from my W's friends H that I mentioned earlier. He really needed to talk, so I gave him an ear to bend. One of the things that I learned yesterday is that he and his W are now separated. I knew they where having problems again but this was news to me. I could be wrong but I think the separation helps his sanity. It sounded to me that his M is where mine was at a few months ago. We talked for well over a hour, which I ended up cutting him short. It is crazy but if my W found out that we are talking she would probably flip. Again the joys of all this.
I have my girls tonight, but do not have any plans. I think keeping them at the house is good for them. It will be grilling and just hanging out tonight at the house.
I have been trying to get my 5D signed up for soccer in the fall. I missed the sign up days and feel that I will not be able to get her in. I am actually really disappointed by this, she has been talking for a while about wanting to play soccer. I think I am going to go with plan B, which is horse riding lessons. I think this is a great backup plan, but I need to get this going for her.
