I know that I am by nature an impatient person. I know this doesn't work too well when doing the DB thing, especially when the WAS is caught in the clutches of an all out MLC. I had a great bit of evidence last night that my efforts are beginning to pay off (see original thread). Now I am having a heck of a time not approaching him to test the waters. I have come up with a ton of reasons to call/text/email him this morning.
I know I can't do it. I know I can't allow myself to pursue him in any way. It is tough though. I want to invite him to play nine holes with me this evening. The kids will be with my dad and golf is something we always really enjoyed doing together. I'm going anyway, but would love to have him go too.
I guess my question to you vets in the MLC thing is: How do you know when to try to include them in fun activities and when to let them watch, uninvited from their perch of self-imposed isolationism? I don't want him to think that I don't want to be with him but I also want him to know that I don't need him around to be happy. How do you decide what is too much?
...still hanging in there!
M - 40 H - 45 (Big Time MLC - Currently House Hopping) S - 11 (w/ Asperger's Syndrome Autism) D - 5 (w/ Type 1 Diabetes) 1 Dog and 2 Cats Married 10/92, Bomb 10/06, H moved out Mother's Day 07 (Sweet huh?)
