If he was willing to take a good hard look at himself and didn't like what he saw, then he may have the internal motivation to turn things around.
Not so sure he really did that as much as when I found out what he was telling people. Mainly my kids and his family. I addressed him about it in front of them. And he was left no other choice but to man up and admit he was the one having a hard time making it.
I do believe he somewhat knows he wallowed for a year while I got on with it and that was on him not me. And I have enforced that every chance I get. Like when he tried to put it on me that he was losing his job, If I would not have left him he would have went to work. And his drinking and bar running. If I would not have left him and was waitting at home for him he would not have been doing that. Regaurdless those were his choices and part of his weak nature. Not mine. Not one good thing or sign of strength did he show in a year. While I on the other hand bucked up and got to it. And somehow and in someways he has acknowledged some of that.
But it really does not matter if he does or does not because my kids see it for what it really is. They see me as a stronger person then him. And my relationship with S16 is better then ever.
And for me I dont care if he goes to the bar all night. As long as he sleeps on the couch when he gets home. That was never my issue my issue was my kids being left alone all night. Which I have taken control to make sure does not happen. I dont care if he sqaunders money as long as the bills are paid first. Which I have taken control of to make sure does happen. His doing these things or not doing them are his choice. So though I have stepped back into being the mommy role for him in some matters I am not taking on the responsiblity for telling him what to do with his personal life again. I only care about the things that effect my kid welfare.
I am not sure if you have ever read my orginal threads. So some of this may not make alot of sense to you. And I dont really remember what they were called or how to find them again so I cannot even point you to them lol.
