It's now been more than 24 hours since we've talked.

On Sunday around noon prior to writing my note on this site, she proceeded to go to sleep over at her house as she does everyday (she works nights). She gave me an out to leave but I pushed a little and stayed instead of leaving and it did end with some great sex (multiple times). We each fell asleep. We woke up hours later with her phone ringing, and her jumping up out of bed to take the call in the other room. Then she proceeded to leave for work 30 minutes early. That's when I came home and went online and wrote the note.

Upon me leaving her house yesterday, we had a minor argument about her leaving 30 minutes early for work (I'm not sure if it was for the guy or not; it would take at least 15-20 extra minutes to get to his place so I'm not sure what the point would have been leaving then but she wont give me any good reasons why; I know he works in the same place as her so maybe they just meet there and talk?). We also argued when I asked her why all of the pictures of the two of us had been removed from her room. She said she was just reorganizing things but all the pictures of her and her kids remained where they were so it was another explanation that didn't sound logical to me.

When I left, I was visibly angry. I told her I wasn't going to call her or stop by anymore until she figured things out. I told her to call me when she stopped playing games. Well, today she didn't call. We didn't talk at all. I wanted to call but I'm going to try this sites suggestions for a while and not. I think today was the first day in 3 or so years that we didn't talk at all. It seems like we've talked briefly/coldly during past small arguments. Today has gone by really slowly.

I wonder a little if I'm in the wrong with my conclusions even if everyone here agreed with me. If I'm actually just being overprotective and what if shes telling the truth and there has been no affair (yet) but shes just kind of friends and exploring the option. But I guess just the fact that she is hanging out with some other guy thats making advances on her is wrong when she knows its hurt me. But I know it's wrong to try and keep her from having any friends too. When I've made an issue of this, she asks me now, "so I can't have friends?"

It's just confusing. I wish our total trust was not broken with a past experience. She stood by me during a very, very rough period in my life and I feel like my future life would be a lot worse without her. I wish I would have been a better boyfriend - more romantic. I concentrate a lot on business/work (I own my own business) and times have been hard.

Thanks for everybody thats replied to my post. I'm trying to take everyones advice.