D -- I honestly don't know. "Inconvenienced" would not be the word I would think of using for either of us. I'm sure he's learned *something* out of the whole sitch and I'm sure he's realizing a lot of things by being gone, however, I just wonder what's going to happen when he comes back to "real life." I don't know that he's looked at himself at all or if he ever will as far as his "issues" may be concerned. I'm afraid that he's not truly happy w/ himself either and that no one would ever be able to *make* him happy until he gets there. That could, obviously, be said about me too.

I just get to thinking sometimes, that's all. I know, bad thing, thinking is, but sometimes I just don't know how he could for so many years be so unhappy and not really communicate that to me, then all of a sudden up and decide the only way is to get a D, which I am sure was helped a lot by him having an EA at the time, and then all of a sudden deciding "no, wait a minute, I really don't want a D after all and everything's great & wonderful now."

We've never had any sort of indepth convo re: the whole sitch, and by the time he gets back and even during visits, that's going to be the last thing I want to do. Like I've said before, I don't even know what changed his mind in the end.

Husband - email is k-sampson35@hotmail.com for that book. Thanks!


Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10