I will chime in on this as well...my H who was a WAH/MLC has expressed these same things to me...he has been home for about a year now...he told me many of the same things for the same reasons...he didn't want to feel trapped, get sucked in...he told me when he left so abruptly that he felt like he was drowning and had to run for his life (this did a real number on me emotionally to think I was such a horrible person that he had to run for his life)...
I think the point to remember is that the MLC needs time...space...and a steady friend who will be there when they need them...and if all goes well eventually they will return to what they "know"...and if you play it right you can instill in them a "safe" feeling...once you get to that point...the communication can start...the healing can begin...
Great advice your getting...I know it is hard...but time is your friend...not your enemy...my H was gone for almost 2 years...I was sure he could never come back...he told me he could never come back...I had begun to lose hope...and now it has all changed...
So hang in there....ground yourself...and hold on....
