You are cutting through that fog...and you are really doing some great self examinations...this is a HUGE step into understanding yourself...I think I would have to agree with everything you said...and while it might not apply to others it does to you and that is what counts...just like some people can drink wine or whatever every night and suddenly stop without an issue...but for someone who has a weakness/predisposition for alcholism this is a problem and they must avoid it entirely to lead a functional life...
I have known others who got caught up emotionally in romance novels...and for those it was not healthy for their relationships in real life...
Sandi...I have great confindence in you and that you will find yourself in all of this...but do look at getting a healthy life...do you crochet? knit? garden? enter recipe contests (I do this as an escape and have won national contests and money)? or have you looked into volunteer work maybe once a month reading at your local library, helping in a retirement home...think about something you could do that you would find JOY in doing...I know for me I had made my life being a mom/wife...and lost me in the process...after H left I had to find out who I really was...so even with him back I am maintaining my own life...I have my own "thing" that I like to do...I have things that I share with my kids...and things I share with H...but I always make sure and do something just for me...no matter how small it is...
I think you goals are great...and as I said...you are doing great...share with us some of your H's qualities that you truly admire...sometimes sharing these things helps to keep them in mind for yourself...
Keep up the positive steps, Sandi...you are doing an awesome job!!!
