Really there's no point in worrying anymore. She's done what she's going to do. You're not in limbo you not what's coming. Hold out hope that one day she does realize what she's doing. Maybe soon maybe not. But when that day comes maybe it'll be too late because YOU'VE moved on. I don't see that day happening for me anytime soon. I don't know that you do either but it could happen.
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
I'm really sorry. Looks like I read the signals all wrong.
Maybe I was stating signals that were in my head and not real, who knows. I am not giving up that she won't wake up, just hope it is before I do move on completely. I do have to stop worrying about it and come to the realization that it is probably 100% over, but I have this nagging thing in the back of my head that keeps telling me she is not really done yet. I will not sit back and just wait, but will be open to discussions in the future if she brings it up.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
789 I think you might want to look at this a little differently. So you thought you saw a lot of positive signals, they very well may have been positive signals coming from a person who was and very well may be very confused.
Remember believe nothing of what they say or very little of it and only half of what they do.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
I might have, even with what she said I see confusion and a lonely look in her face, I do know her that well. She is also not talking in her normal voice, it was quiet and subdued yesterday which is completely unlike her. That is one reason I asked a few posts back how long it takes to get served, something tells me she hasn't, I won't be shocked if it shows up, but I won't be shocked if it does not either. If I believed everything or for that matter anything she has said in the last few months we would have been divorced and she would be happy, well we are not yet, and she does not look happy. I do have to get better at detaching and not worrying about it, what happens now happens. Won't stop me from coming in here and thinking out loud and asking advice, but when it counts around her, I will just let it be for now.
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M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
A date is were you grab the kids, go to the movies, order the big popcorn and soda, throw in some candy just for the heck of it and goof off and make the people around you pissed.
Oh god, just read what I wrote, I am in trouble. Easier to stay married.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
So is my mind confused or am I normal in giving up worrying about it, but not giving up that it can still have a happy ending. That is what I am thinking and hoping, just sounds weird in my own head.
In other words I am going to stop waiting for the phone call or a knock on the door. I am going to get a life, finally. I will do what I want when I want and no longer worry about it, which is what I have been doing so far. Still not going to date, not ready for that, and would be unfair to whoever that lady may be.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Yep much easier. Problem is at the moment it's not up to us. And that stinks.