I am not going to give up that at some point that we can reconcile and be together. With what she said today I don't think I have the stomach to try right now. I did, not sure if right or not, tell her that if she realizes that she made a mistake at some point in the future not to be afraid to call and go from there. She actually cried some and promised that she would, I wasn't looking for a promise much less a nodding of the head, but she did.
Any advice on how to handle my situation now? or just move on with life and see what it brings.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
OK my take here is she's acting out of a great deal of pain and a divorce in her eyes is the easiest and fastest way out of that pain. With her response to you it sounds like she knows deep down a divorce isn't the answer to escaping her pain or solving the problems.
It's going to be real important for you to focus on your introspection, make your changes, not push for or initiate relationship talk or even say encouraging words. She's got to have her own space and time and this is going to take time.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
She may need time, but with her filing I will continue to do my thing, that won't change. I am having some anger issues right now, I just cannot believe this is happening. Two things I want to do but I know they are not right are first, tell her to read DR if not for me or us, for our son. Second one is to tell her when our son is getting married to talk to him and his bride and tell them both that when you want, just file for divorce and don't fight for you marriage, especially after they have kids. I won't do either of those but they are on the top of my mind.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Don't do anything while you're angry. If you don't want to give up hope then don't but you can't let the situation consume you either. Unfortunately you can't control this. It stinks I know.
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
I don't want to give up hope, but I do want to finally give up worrying about it. I just know that she is going to regret it at some time, and that is what sucks right now.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
That is how I need to think. I know I can find someone when the time is right, I know that the world will continue to move forward. I just don't want to stop loving her even though she does not care any longer.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
