my husband has not told me that he has ended the affair but whenever my son calls him he usually comes over right away to get him. Or if i drive by the apt. from a distance i see his truck home and i know what kind of car o/w has and its not there. he use to not have his cell phone on when he came over but now he does. but she could be calling him at home though.and I read once the A has been discovered it can change the whole dynamics of the A and cause it to end. They no longer can live in their fantasy world and the reality of consequences of the A set in. This is what Im hoping has happened. He may realize he has destroyed our family and my son will hate him if he goes off with her. H and S have a very close relationship.
Thanks everyone I'm going to make it I'm just being a big baby. aren’t all men Delia?
Sara, That was the problem he did not take care of it. If he would have had surgery he probably wound is here today.
Cades, I don’t even know if it is a hernia, But I have been reading (I do this tooo much lately). And it has all of the symptoms of a “Reducible” hernia. W called me back at work, said I should get an earlier appt. she could pick up son. I told her not to worry about it I can take care of my self. After I hung up I called to see if an earlier appt was available. It was not so I called my Wife and let he know. It’s hard dealing with this when I want to hug & hold my W but know I shouldn’t. I have not told her ILU in over 3 months. (At least not that she could hear). Sorry I’m just rattling on. Like I said I’m going to be OK. I’m just a little scared / nervous going thru this by myself.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
GET OFF THE INTERNET until you see your doctor. Those are direct orders from the PMS'ing redhead, Sir. DO IT NOW. It will cause nothing but worry until you see your doc and even know what you're dealing w/.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Hello all. Sorry I haven't piped up in the last couple of days. H and I had a bad weekend. Started out ok Sat. night but went down hill after that.. Won't bore you with it.. sum it up.. he feels neglected. Im sooo tired of this. The kids and I were so sick all wk and he's worried about himself. I was really ready to throw in the towel yesterday. He is extremely needy. I am not. He wants his needs met, but doesn't care about mine. He's actually home from work today, in and out only because its raining. He just ran to pick up some parts.He's so freakin miserable when he's like this, I almost want to tell him to go back to work! Yes men are babies, but mine isn't in that sense, he is when he doesn't get sex every other day!
Husband~ Im sorry that you are feeling bad... and the girls are right, don't keep looking on the net it will only drive you bonkers until you go to the dr's.. im glad your going and im also glad that you told your W. She does need to know those things. That stuff is important, your health is important.
Its really raining here today and its depressing me. But tomorrow should be a better day, S has swimming lessons, so its off to the beach with the kids. I need it after these last couple of days..
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
I'm back. Yes it is a hernia. I go for surgery consultation on Friday, I am supposed to avoid: heavy lifting, laughing, snezzing, coughing, passing gas and have "frequent" bowel movements so there is not too much pressure. My Female doctor (first time I have been naked with a woman in a year) also said frequent sex will help relive the pressure. (Ok I made up that part up but that is what I am going to tell my wife).
Wife called before I left said she is going to be in a meeting but wants me go call and leave a message. I chose not to say anything sarcastic.
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Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
sex will definitely relieve the "pressure" in more ways than one. You'll be ok. Promise. Don't get on the internet & start looking at "what could" happen during or after the surgery, etc. b/c it won't happen anyway. You'll be in & out and the only problem is you'll probably be on some pain meds again for awhile, but you can deal w/ that later. It'll all be fine!!!!! My poor little 1 yr old has to go under and be circumsized in September. You guys can share a room
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
:) My poor little 1 yr old has to go under and be circumsized in September. You guys can share a room
Cades, This is why I convinced my W to have my son circumsized before he left the hospital more time to forget about it.
Bet a few ladies here would like to perform it on their WAW husbands......
I'm not worried, And I will not "snoop" on line.I am going to let the wife worry about the child care though. You sound allot better today. I'll tell ya. My emotions have been going all over the place lately. I would hate to see me If I had your "Woman problems" the one you were born with not the OW. Actually maybe talking you all I may be having sympathy PMS.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Well, they did w/ both of our other 2 boys, but the pediatrician w/ Clark "didn't feel comfortable doing it" for obscure reasons, but I wasn't going to argue w/ her. If she didn't want to do it then, I didn't want her doing it, if you know what I mean. I guess the procedure poor little Clarkie is going to have to go through involves a scalpel and the doc says it is "more precise" so his brothers are going to be jealous b/c he is going to have a "precise penis." My H doesn't find it at all amusing.
Yeah, I'm feeling a lot better. It's kind of humorous actually -- OP is so playing a game w/ me, but I'm not even going to go there anymore. Haven't heard from him, but I'm sure I will in a few days.
When I had to have my lung biopsied b/c I had a spot on my lung on an x-ray (and I've smoked since i was about 15), I looked it up online & about passed out. At least they will put you under!! I had to have a needle stuck into my lung and you can't anesthesize the lung. Think about that!!
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Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
sex will definitely relieve the "pressure" in more ways than one. You'll be ok. Promise. Don't get on the internet & start looking at "what could" happen during or after the surgery, etc. b/c it won't happen anyway. You'll be in & out and the only problem is you'll probably be on some pain meds again for awhile, but you can deal w/ that later. It'll all be fine!!!!! My poor little 1 yr old has to go under and be circumsized in September. You guys can share a room