I so still want this, but just don't see that I will ever have it with my W. I know this is impatience speaking, but I really do question whether she is willing to do the hard work necessary to address her issues so that pursuing such an intimate relationship could be possible.
This is still possible. You know I have had the same feeling and doubts. This will not be an easy task nor is success guaranteed. The good news is that you are well on your way towards this goal. Firstly you have been building up self respect , keep doing this. What will follow is your W will start to have renewed respect for you, then it will be possible that she may start making an effort in the right direction and you will start to respect her. You can start building an entirely different and better R together.
One foot in front of the other thats the only way you will get there , If in fact one day you find she is not following your lead then it will be time to re assess your sitch.
