I hate to say that part of it has been through shaming him. He has made it seemed like I came back because I could not make it. Yeah the fact that I was fine and he was not was a hard pill for him to swallow. What made it harder was I did not take the fall for him I called him out on the how I crawled back thing and he had to man up and own up to the fact he was the one who could not make it not me.
The fact that you were able to get through to him in this way may be a good sign. If he was willing to take a good hard look at himself and didn't like what he saw, then he may have the internal motivation to turn things around. Nothing's guaranteed, of course, but there's some reason for hope. Just make sure you've got some way to keep your sanity and your life together if he disappoints you again. And then go with the flow and find happiness.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
