How did I do that. I shamed him into going back to work. Then when he went back and all of a sudden the disability company decided to retract his claim. I did all the paperwork fighting with doctors and the disability company to get his job reinstated while he was off on unpaid leave pending discharge.
Making him be responsibile is maybe the wrong wording. I am not taking on the responsibility of financially doing it. He is working his full time and a part time job at the moment. I get all his regualar job pay to catch up the bills he gets his part time job pay money. After I deflated my savings of the last year to pay some of his bills I made it very clear not one more penny of my money would go to paying his debt. I had paid child support and been responsible I was not paying for his not being over the course of the year. So he is maning up to it and doing what needs to be done. So far.
I hate to say that part of it has been through shaming him. He has made it seemed like I came back because I could not make it. Yeah the fact that I was fine and he was not was a hard pill for him to swallow. What made it harder was I did not take the fall for him I called him out on the how I crawled back thing and he had to man up and own up to the fact he was the one who could not make it not me.
Part of my H's biggest problems is he cannot take responsibility for his actions. Everything he does is someone elses fault. Someone else is to blame he is the hero cast as the villian blah blah. Not this go round not at my cost.
