Wow, that is great insight, I needed that. Saturday went great, I was totally cool, unselfish, watched her girlfriend's kids so they could have "woman-time". I didn't overdo anything, no problem with GAL or confidence. I caught her crying uncontrollably Sat night, unfortunately I said "don't worry, I care too much about you, I will fight for our marriage"....I could have kicked myself for revealing my feelings on R...and then made the mistake of asking her the next day why she was crying which brought up questions on her part, why didn't you respond before to work on our relationship...all I could say was that I didn't get it, made a mistake...I know she's thinking, "why should I give him another chance". It cooled off after that and she was visibly angry on Sunday. She has this internal struggle I think, with being mad at me for responding so late and only because she threatened to leave and (hopefully) maybe he really is different and maybe this marriage can be saved. But her anger flip-flopped sometime in the evening, she came and found me to say good night and she gave me a small hug before work today. So I'm back on the confident, GAL, be cool track again. I know she is totally on the same page you were, and has said it before, "I don't want to give you false hope". Ouch. And I'm really trying to do what you suggested, just be there, in the background doing my own thing, being myself and available if she needs something. If she wants to walk out, let her. She thanked me for not getting mad when she brought up the subject of buying a condo.
What would you make of her questioning herself on "why should I give you another chance" or the statement "the place for you in my heart is not available"....do you interpret a little hope or is it just justification for a decision already made?
