Some people will not go to counselling. period.
(my wife is one of them. sigh).

The most important thing here, is that *you* know what it would take for you to be comfortable about him moving in again.


Never, ever, do the "i think you need more time" thing again \:\(
Right now, think about what you want from him, to move back in.
if it ever comes back up, say, "this is what I would need for you".


My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle