my crazy mess

[christarn]

ok...talked with the H today...the only answers he will give are I don't know. He told me still has feelings but will never trust me again...which I validated, told him it would be hard after I left to regain trust. I asked him if there was something that I could do to help him regain my trust...he answered Idon't know. We talked for about an hour, just issues within the marriage, finances etc..."why do I care about his finances now"..he's in a financial burden now..(thinking about selling the house we lived in) He also told me he is overly stressed. Things were going good, then all of sudden I show back up in his life, and he has all of these decisions to make..it just overly stresses him. He also lost his job on friday which is not helping matters. He did say he doesn't know if he wants the D, still has feelings...but how is he to believe everything is just going to be hunky dorry! I just tried so hard to validate everything he was saying and be reassuring. He tried to pick several fights, I remaind calm and reassuring. He ended the call saying he would call me sometime. It is just getting frustrating living in limbo, not knowing....help please hugs to you guys