WAW1978's adventures in DB'ing

[Heimlich]

He does not take my feelings seriously and disregards them. Because he does not see a problem, hence there is no problem. These things are "all in my head".

I didn't see this post before my last reply. Wow. I now see why you say that you doubt if the light switch will ever go on for your H. My Mom is in the process of beginning to divorce my 2nd step dad (can you say bad taste in men). While I believe he truly does love my mom, he doesn't know how to really do that. Everything revolves around him and his needs. A lot of us left behind husbands are really pulling for you because it's almost like a vicarious win for us (if that makes any sense) and because you've given us tremendous insight into what our Ss are thinking. That said, maybe a S is the whack to the head your H needs to change and turn that switch. It's not fair to you or your D to live in an environment where he has final 'say' over what you do without any input from you. I've seen first-hand what this is like with my step-dad (both, now that I think about it) and you deserve better. Some men never will get it, unfortunately.

BD