WAW1978's adventures in DB'ing

[Not Much Left]

Gotcha
This stuff is sort of catch 22. You actually do hold the cards believe it or not in more than one way.

1. The basic - females hold the cards period, end of story
2. You control you, he does not.

I actually am of course, accused of doing the same thing. I take full responsibility for allowing our R to unfold the way it has and my W feeling controlled by me. I am a pusher, doer and it just comes out that way. No bad intent, but I realize my actions are perceived as controlling so I need to change them, full stop on that one. It does not matter what his intentions are, good or bad, you perceive them as controlling so he needs to change them. I completely agree.

I guess if you have voiced this stuff and he is not listening, then it is his problem to deal with right now.

Just asking, have you REALLY voiced it in a way he understands, blunt trauma to the head style (not really, metaphorically?).

CVA