WAW1978's adventures in DB'ing

[waw1978]

Controlling behavior is just one of our problems. He is full aware that is pissed me off and made me feel like a child that needed permission to do anything.

Then there is the lack of physical relationship because he wasn't interested in me physically and the comments about how I wasn't as good looking/thin as when we met. Etc.

I don't know how to make it any clearer for him. He has treated me like a possesion, one that he didn't want to play with to boot, for years. Now I am so angry and hurt that there is almost nothing he can say to make me feel differently. Acknowledging that my feelings are valid would be a huge start. I need to see changes, real ones, not just the reactionary stuff that most LBS try in the beginning when they are in panic mode.