Irish- I just read thru your first thread and there is absolutely NO WAY I would let him move back in right now. Whats' going to change? He has already "tried" and gone to 5 counseling sessions. Now he'll "try" and not actually *do* anything to try?!
He has been all over the map with his emotions and it is understandable; BUT you have to protect the feelings of your DD and yourself.
You can validate him and his feelings and you can agree that you want nothing more than a restored family, but until something actually changes, he can't move back in.
There have already been false starts. Look at it this way--do you want the same marriage you have been having? If he moves back in without having done or even planning to do any work to change things, it will end up being the same marriage. Having come back now would be a short term solution to a long term problem and won't do anything but temporarily relieve all the unpleasant feelings. Think long term for you, your DD, your H and your M.
Well, that's my opinion. Take it for what it's worth. My H is currently looking for an apartment and he still sleeps in our bed. So, believe me, it is easy to dispense advice that I won't take.
Best of luck and keep us posted.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
