WAW1978's adventures in DB'ing

[waw1978]

Hey CVA

I am not talking to him outside of C because we seem to be getting no where. Its toxic and does more harm than good. He does not take my feelings seriously and disregards them. Because he does not see a problem, hence there is no problem. These things are "all in my head". So I guess I see no point in discussing since he refuses to validate my feelings/complaints. Maybe if there was some validation on his part I would want to discuss but since there isn't, these confrontations are just digression. Trying my best to move forward so I feel that limiting R discussion to MC only would be best at this point.

I have told him repeatedly, that I need time & space to get over all the hurt. As one of my pals indicated, I do not stay angry with anyone forever. It just takes time. I figure it took me at least 2-3 years to get this disgusted with him, it may take half that time to get over it. He just isn't in the same place as most of you LBS here and I have serious doubts that he will have the "getting it" ephiphany any time soon. He refuses to read any of the books I have and on some level I wonder if he isn't just goading me into leaving since he doesn't want to be the "bad guy".

We have serious control issues. He needs to control me, and I cower and let him. So maybe I do hold all the cards but it doesn't feel that way. It still feels like he is running the show.