Hi All I am relatively new here - a link to my sitch is here: So It Goes
In short: H had an EA/PA with W from work (where he still works). I confronted H 6/06 and we have been working at this marriage since then. It's been up and down but over the last few months things have gotten a lot better...
2 weeks ago, he suddenly said he doesn't think that he can get over what he did and feels that he completely ruined our marriage and can't get it back to the place it was when we first got married. He suggested that we spend time apart - not officially separated, just spend a week or two apart (him at his parents or me at mine). When pressed further, he said he didn't think he could make this marriage work - it is beyond repair - and we should end it.
Most of the time I don't want to get divorced - but I'm beginning to want to walk away. Long term, I think that would be a bad decision, but I don't think I can go through another year of this roller coaster. I'm at the point where if he wants to walk away, well...then let me hold the door open and help pack his stuff. . .
Have any of you gone through this? I feel like we hit a plateau and instead of us plowing through it together, he wants to call it quits . . .any thoughts? I am exhausted!
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
