Ouch that one hurt............bad

[Chuckwlane]

Thanks for all the kind words. I love my children and was very sad when they left.

Here is the good news and a little recap!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sorry, I am generally long winded!

Saturday morning I told her that I am committed to keeping this family together but I was tired of all the lies and her doing things behind my back, I knew that she was still in contact with the OM, and that she needed to consider leaving. She said ok, we talked, did a few bills things together, and then she got ready and packed for an overnight getaway with the kids. Before she left I told her this is not a game, and that I was committed to doing the right thing, then I gave her the speech from tough love (if you must go). We talked as she packed and left, and I helped her. She is my wife friend and the mother of my children, and I still believe thats what you do for that person.

A few hours later she called, and said she was sad. We talked for a while, cried, talked, it was nice. Later that night she woke me up with a text, and we exchanged a few friendly texts about the kids and TV. The next morning after I had returned from church and the book store is when she told me OM was there. I was not happy. I told her it was a line she said that would not be crossed, and that she needed to do whatever she needed to do.

It hurt. I was mad, started thinking of packing up all her bags, calling police for a restraining order against her going nuts...... eventually I calmed down, and went back to dealing with life and reading.

My wife called around 5pm to say she was on the way home, we chatted about how the kids were, what they did, and I just asked if they had fun. My wife brought up OM and said that he was there just to be nice, there were lots of other people there with kids etc etc etc..... I simply told her that I think what she did was wrong, what she is doing is wrong, there was no way in his mind that it was a harmless nice action, and that she needed to do whatever she needed to do. And we amicably ended the conversation.

She called a short time later to talk about us. I told her how I thought, about what I have been reading and learning. It was a real good long conversation about us.

When she got home I put down DR, and went to meet her and the kids. I helped her unpack and played basket ball with my son for a while, and then started to get the kids ready for bed. When I got upstairs, my wife had crawled into bed where I had been reading DR… picked it up and started reading it. I just kept putting the kids to bed and left her alone. When I was done, I crawled into the other side, she put the book down and we started talking about the book, made a few jokes about things that we saw and agreed upon. It was nice. She asked if I cared if she stayed in the house, or in the bed, I said hun I am perfectly fine with you here, and she fell asleep in the bed. I ended up about halfway thru the book, I could not put it down.

This morning she went jogging at a local park and left her purse at the house. She texted saying she needed gas and asked if I could bring her purse to her. I of course would do anything for her if I could do so, so I said yes. When I got there I half expected to drop it off and she would leave, but she started talking about us, so I just joined the conversation. It was real nice again.

Tough love speech ----- Worked for me
Divorce Remedy Book----- Working for me

Take Care and good luck,
Chuck