I prefaced my "too much" paragraph with the fact that I was venting. I am no where near a point where I think I need to give up and move on. The reward of being back in a loving and committed relationship with my W is too much to pass up on. As far as knowing that she is not cheating on me, that is a problem with my situation. I don't know for sure that she is not. I don't accuse her of doing it, I have asked her in the past (several months ago when all of this started), and she denied it. I just see signs here and there that makes me think that she is.
As far as setting boundaries, I think that I have to set some sort of boundaries. I think that it is fair that I know in advance if she is or is not going to be sleeping at home. I don't mind (well, I wouldn't go that far... I can deal with) her being out when she tells me up front that she is not coming home. What upsets me is when she doesn't tell me that she will be staying out, says something like call you in a while to talk and then I don't hear from her again until 4:30 am. I only would ask that if she tells me she will call, that she follow through and actually do it. And also that if she is going to be staying out, that she tell me before she leaves, or if she doesn't know at that time, that she tell me before 4:30 am.
I think I may start to make my own plans without checking with her. Maybe if we put the shoe on the other foot for a while she can see how it feels. But, she is pretty spiteful right now, so I doubt it will have any effect other than to come back and bite me.
Dustin, I am sorry you are struggling with the same situation. I will check in on your thread.
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1162413&page=2#Post1162413 M-28 W-28 Together 10 years Married 2 years No children Things started taking a turn in 01/07
