The other point I might make is that those of you who are married and have been married for a while are really not cognizant of what it's like to be single and dating. You think "What's not to like?" about me because you don't remember what it's like to have choices.

You probally have that right.

Most of the married type advice is along the line of you made a choice and need to get along with each other.

I am way more picky about who I want to date in some ways than I ever imagined I would be when I was stuck in my SSM and I would consider it a sign of personal growth if I got even pickier and I would prefer to be involved with somebody who is being picky and still picking me.
That is similar to what happened to QOE100/Jill who posted on my thread a few times.

She post on the Surviving the big D forum http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1089052&page=1#Post1089052

I remember lots of talk about her dating good and bad guys and her being selective. She went to Spain and dance classes with one guy but there wasn't the right spark in the R, so she moved on. Jill lives in your state and was going to DB get-to=gethers.