OK,last night when my H dropped off DD and I saw OW sweater in the car, I was enraged. I thought he went away for the weekend with her and it made me sick. I yelled at him to leave and then realized I shouldn't have. Called his sister's to talk to him and he was not yet home. She told me the OW was there the day he left last week and she had enough, was asking him to move out. I called OW and was not nice although she was a complete B%#$H herself. H called a few times that night and with the various emotional ups and downs as I broke every DB rule there is, the last conversation was we have to figure out a way to handle all this in a way that is right for our D and he agreed. So this morning he calls and says he wants to come home today. He will end it with OW and we will try to work on this together but he does not want counselling. After a few minutes of me trying to getting him to explain how he reached this sudden 180 decision,he says will do you want me there or not. I said he he wanted to come home I would welcome it cause I did not want to turn him away. A few minutes later I called back and said maybe he should think about this further and take some more time to make sure he was making a decision he was comfortable with. He said maybe, he was on the other line can he call me back. What do I do? I want him home but not to have a revolving door or put myself or my D through more confusion and pain? He sounds so hesitant of it actual working I am worried he is choosing this option for reasons I don't know - it is what I hoped for but should I say yes come home today or no, take some more time to be sure you are ready to try to fix thia with me?
