I know this whole situation with M's sucks. Bottom line. No denying it. Sucks for the other person too. No one wants their M to go belly up!
Of course there will be a point where this is "too much" and you begin to feel like a doormat. Guess what? Your W's are adults. You cannot control your W's actions or feelings. You are only responsible for you actions and feelings. So if you are starting to feel like a doormat my suggestion to is get on with your life. Stop being a doormat. They are not making you sit at home and wait for them. Go do your own thing. Stop making the W's the center of your happiness. Cause you know what? Thats not going to change the W's feelings. Seriously, start making your own plans without checking in with the W's and see how they like it. This will get their attention without you saying a word. This whole boundaries thing? May cause the W's to take that final step and move out. Is this what you want? If it is...plow ahead. But don't be surprised if the moving truck is not far behind. As long as you know they are not cheating on you, any other "boundaries" will be seen as you trying to control them.
Maybe this is sounding harsh and I am sorry cause I mean this to be helpful to you both.
Last edited by waw1978; 07/23/0701:15 PM.
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.
