Stew,
Only you can answer as to how long you are prepared to continue like this, you have to be be the one decided.
There is no formula, I guess you have to look at what you are doing, and decide if there are any changes for the better, can you see a glimmer of light.
And ultimatley you have to look at what impact this is having on you, have you done everything you can, and decide what you really want.
Alot of people here have been DB for sometime, because for them they feel this is the right thing, some not so long, you have to decided based on your situation.

Sorry it doesn't come with an easy answer.


Me - 44
H - 44
M - 19yrs
together - 23yrs
D16
S8
EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07
H still @ home
Recovered!

"Do or do not, there is no try" Yoda