Oh I'm sure the movie itself and emotions it conveyed had a bit to do with her attitude and actions at the end of the night. She really wasn't showing any signs of putting her guard back up before that.
I was also looking for a bit of pullback from her anyway. We all know it's two steps forward, one step back. It didn't help that I stupidly told her "I look forward to many more nights like this. I know it'll take a while but I believe in you and us." I said that and immediately wanted to take it back. All that did was apply pressure.
No matter we all backslide bits here and there. I need to work on the "microslides" as I call them and little comments when you are doing so well at DBing are microslides.
Now I am somewhat concerned about a full backing away from her too. I say that because I've had the girls this past week and she hadn't really spent more than a day or so with D10 since the end of June because she's been a camps. My wife gets a bit lonely when she doesn't have the girls and typically shows more forward movement during these times. A couple of evenings this week we did talk rather late in the evening and I could tell she was lonely. Loneliness seems to get her guard down a bit and honestly I'd love to force more of it on her.
But alas she has the girls for the next two weeks which means she'll have a lot of time to build up "strength" as I think she sees it. But after that she's out of the country on business for two weeks. Maybe that'll cancel out any strength or resolve she builds up.
Last edited by catfan; 07/23/0711:09 AM.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
