OK my take here is she's acting out of a great deal of pain and a divorce in her eyes is the easiest and fastest way out of that pain. With her response to you it sounds like she knows deep down a divorce isn't the answer to escaping her pain or solving the problems.
It's going to be real important for you to focus on your introspection, make your changes, not push for or initiate relationship talk or even say encouraging words. She's got to have her own space and time and this is going to take time.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
