My wife lied to my face so many times about her A. But, I finally noticed a twitch when she lied, I kid you not. She called me crazy a lot too. This whole thing, once you get some detachment, gets kinda funny. Took awile to find that twitch though. Check out the book "Ultimate Betrayal". Keep in mind that it sounds you are still early in this nitemare. Patience. Go for walks, read everything and anything on infidelity. Read your Bible too. Work out eat rite, LIVE WELL it's the ultimate revenge (Please don't take the word revenge to literally). Move on and up with your life. THAT will get her attention. Keep posting, there is a lot of experience here to help you.