Most of these are the not the types of advice people used to give around here, must be the new crowd. We're all here because we all f'd up at one level or another so give the guy a break.

I've been going through this for over a year. My STBXW said similar or meaner things than this (again not an anomaly), she even filed and told me about it in a similar email. I didn't bother responding, I stopped pursuing, no chit-chat, no emails other than D related and its been 4 months and she hasn't moved forward. I was cordial but not overly friendly. Now I'm moving forward due to other developments. Point being, if you're truly sorry for your mistakes, you'll make yourself a better person whether she comes back to you or not. Chances are she fell in love with you for a reason and with the changes you'll make she could possibly be once again attracted to you. However, it may take a long time and in that time one thing you must do is stop pursuing her.

Come back post more, read even more, you're not alone!


Me: 32|W: 34|D: 3yo
1st bomb: Feb 2006 (left one day, came back a week later)
2nd bomb: Aug 2006 (moved out, ILYBNILWY)
3rd bomb: Apr 2007 (filed for divorce)
4th bomb: <her finger on the launch button>