Marshall, it feels good to have someone understand. I am sorry about your situation. How long have you been married? I feel like I am the only one here who is going through this after being married such a short time.
We also had all these little things that seemed to reaffirm our love. It just felt like we "got" each other. He honestly seems like a completely different person. I have also done things that I never thought I would do and feel ashamed. I feel like it would be a little easier if I was at home where I have friends and family.
He has always been a "spender" and I have always been a "saver", but it hasn't really caused problems in the past. He doesn't have access to my savings so that is a good thing. I am just worried about paying bills from the checking account before he spends it...and even then, I think it might be overdrafted. Really, the only outrageous spending has been the hotel. I guess I figured he would go stay with one of his friends. Even getting an apartment would be cheaper than this.
This is also the hardest thing I have ever gone through. I feel sick all the time, and I really have to force myself to eat. Tomorrow will be the first day I try to have no contact. Wish me luck!
