Wow. My story mirrors yours klm. My wife is in the Air Force as well. I didn't work with people my age so the only people I made friends with were my wive's fellow classmates. Her training was intensive and she was gone all day. We were so great together! We had so many "little things" that she and I did together to affirm our love everyday. I was so in love... everyday and she said and acted as if she was, too.

Anyway, she started acting different and we fought everyday for about 4 weeks. I did the snooping and found the phone records to show her conversations lasting from 10pm (my bedtime) until 2am EVERY SINGLE NIGHT! We didn't have many problems prior to this. She promised nothing was going on.

Anyway I left because I couldn't be around her (big mistake) and it's been 12 weeks now, but she doesn't want me back. I have done nothing, but struggle because of my decision to leave and it's done nothing to help save my marriage; I've been in the situation where I didn't know what I was going to eat the next day. She spent ALL my savings... and overdrafted the account 8 times in 9 weeks. It's been a living Hell. In this time she admitted to "being in love" with this other guy. I think it started developing in class months before our separation. It breaks my heart.

It hasn't been easy. In fact... it's been the hardest thing I've ever experienced to date. I've done things I've NEVER done for anyone before; I became a monster and have kicked all my friends and some of my family out of my life because of some of the obsessive things I've done. I'm truly ashamed, but all I can do now is move forward. I'm just now going on 10 days of no contact, but prior to this streak... I was in contact with her every 3 days or so.

My outlook is bleak. I don't have much hope, but it doesn't mean you shouldn't. I recommend reading the Divorce Remedy... it helped me alot. Stay on the boards in your free time. It's tough... but there is always hope until the D is final. Time is on your side. Good luck.

Last edited by marshall1982; 07/23/07 02:25 AM.
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