I think one of my problems is that I feel blindsighted. He was always saying stuff like "I love being married", "I love being married to you". He was saying these things up until the week he dropped this bombshell on me. And that day he seemed to have a completely different personalty.
One of the problems that we have always had were his spending habits. When we got married he let me handle the money. If he bought anything big, he let me know to make sure we had the money, so it was no big deal. Since he left today he has spent A LOT of money. He checked into an expensive hotel room and went out to eat expensive meals, and went shopping apparently. I am worried about him spending money and me not being able to pay the bills. I am having a really hard time not calling him and telling him to stop spending. How have other people handled sep. financially? We are doing ok, but we can't afford a hotel room every night.
