Sorry that you had to see him this weekend. You did fine--no one ever said this stuff was easy.

My D day was a whole year after separation, and six months after she filed. We had gone round and round with the settlement, and I was so ready to be done with it. I didn't break down in court or anything, but I do recall taking the rest of the day off and curling up in the fetal position on my couch, getting up only for a large bowl of ice cream.

Signing the papers will be tough, the court date will be tough (whether you go or not), getting the final papers...refinancing the house.... Each event triggered by the D will be a reminder, but it will get progressively easier.

Hang in there, kid.