I am a newcomer to the site, I have been reading for a couple of days, but this is the first post. So here's the story:
My husband and I have been married 2 years, we were together 5 years before that. The only reason we waited so long to get married was things going on in our life that we wanted to do. I was in school, and he was in the air force and I couldn't just drop everything. I really felt like we both did everything we needed to do before we got married.
We have always had a great relationship. He knocked me off my feet when I met him and has been doing so ever since. I didn't know that there was a problem until 3 weeks ago. One day he just seemed like he was in a "funk". He said it was just work, but I kept pressing. When he wouldn't talk, I snooped. I found that he had been having very long and very frequent conversations with another woman. He says nothing has happened and I believe him (kind of), but it was definitely an EA. Once I discovered this I asked him to quit talking to her, but he kept talking and seeing her. Now I think he is just sneakier about it.
His personalty has completely changed. I see hate in his eyes and in his voice. I have told a few people about our problems and they are completely shocked. We never fought. We have fought more in the past 3 weeks than we have over the seven years we have been together combined. He says he feels different and he doesn't know if he wants to be married. He also says it has nothing to do with the OW.
He told me last night that he thinks he wants a D, and he packed up and left today. I am going crazy wondering what he is doing. We don't have any kids so that is a good thing, I just never thought he was capable of treating me like this. Is there any hope, or should I just try to move on?
