Encouraging the daughter to open up to you is not prying.
But I REALLY want to pry!!!!!!!
The reason? I think H is being untruthful about FF from last fall. It shouldn't make a difference now that he wants a divorce......but it DOES make a difference to me!!He tried to make me feel like I was a jealous fool. I'm a fool alright.....just my feelings of jealousy were valid!
I know he signed up for a dating service last month. I know he corresponded and probably went out with some. That doesn't bother me as much as the idea that he is having an affair with this FF.
One reason it makes a difference is if he's not telling me the truth about her then how can I trust him that he'll help D16 out with college (but doesn't want it to be court ordered)? With his first affair (at least the first that I knew of)he told me everything from day one (or at least I think so). That was difficult, but at least we had heartfelt conversations about it.
Maybe I'm just looking for an excuse to change our verbal agreement re. the financial settlement. I think I'm "giving in" because he's playing on the value of our friendship.
This has been a moody day!!! Must have been those wedding vows I heard yesterday!
