I mean, if you choose to "let your freak flag fly"
Okay, the verdict is that I am a freak for going around looking like that - lol . I don't know why that particular comment struck me as "territorial". I didn't feel that way when he asked me if I liked bald earlier in the week because his daughter had lice and he was afraid he might get them too.
Actually, new guy and I had a convo about games and players on our first date. I said something like "If some middle-aged guy is on the internet in order to go around playing women like a frat boy with a tote board then he has far worse problems then any of the women he ends up playing." Everybody plays games in relationships but that sort of game is just juvenile and boring, IMO.
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Once he started talking about his kids, it stopped being a proto-relationship.
Wrong. All the divorced Dads I have dated have talked to me about their kids (I told you guys I am more like a kindergarten librarian personality-wise in real life even when I dress all slutty. It's true!). The guy I am dating now actually talked to me about talking to his son about the birds and the bees on our second date. It only stops being a proto-relationship when they INTRODUCE you to their kids. - lol
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Stop fearing the cow. The cow is an important part of who you are. In fact, one of things that would concern a guy about dating a female player is fear that the woman may not have a nurturing side. So now he knows that you do. Fun in bed, yet nurturing. What's not to like?
IMO, a lot of guys don't like the nurturing because it brings on a feeling of obligation or cozy non-fun or something like that. As far as my own intimacy issues are concerned at the moment, all I can say is "Yeah, I almost certainly have them." but I think they're gradually getting better. I actually believe that some men actually want to have sex with me now. That's an improvement. However, I still don't "believe" that anyone would want to be romantically involved with me so I have a "numb" reaction to romantic gestures- sort of like someone who can't accept compliments. But at least I'm self-aware about it and I know that I am 100% responsible for believing all good things about myself and responding in that manner. There are probably reasons why a high drive vegetarian guy who claims to be a lousy cook wouldn't want to date a woman who can happily provide sex and eggplant parmigian at the drop of a hat but probably those reasons arent "my" problem.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
