Peicing hurts like hell and is harder than...

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Thanks ediemaria,
I read your first post. I'm sorry you're here. Maybe you'd agree with this statement; our Marriages could be so good if our spouses would just get past all that crap.

Good luck to you. I'll try to catch up on your sitch. If you've read all of my stuff, you'll know I had an A many years ago too. I quit mine rather than leave my W and kids. These means to me that I'm no 'better' than my spouse, or yours, and that I can understand a little bit of what the spouse who had the A is feeling.

Although my W is acting totally different than I would or did. Sounds to me your H is too. I would ask forgiveness (have) offer to do anything (have) and work hard to have a great M. My W is pulling away, not saying sorry, not asking forgiveness. Maybe our A's were motivated by different emotions. Maybe her A, and what she is doing now, is more of an MLC or about her than about the A. Maybe that's true of your H too.

Thanks again. Sometimes I feel lonely on these boards, It's nice to have someone drop in.