An important point you need to realize is that a person’s actions are a reflection of their perception of an issue. No matter what a person’s reaction, there is a reason for why they act a certain way. You may not know or understand someone’s reasons for why they act the way they do, but you can guarantee that they will have their reasons. An example would be if your partner gets angry and slams a door. You may not know or understand why they are so angry, but their anger is a valid feeling to them, and there will be a reason that they have become so angry. It may be something obvious like you calling them stupid, or it may be something less obvious like a repressed memory from their childhood. Either way the way someone acts is directly related to their perception and reasoning behind an issue. You may not always understand the action, but if you are able to understand the reasoning behind the action you are one step closer to considering your partner’s feelings and taking this into account in conflicts. Your partner’s actions may sometimes hurt you, but if you try and understand the reasoning behind it you may realize that their actions may be more about self defense rather than a personal attack on you.You know how you feel about things and the reasoning that goes behind it, and if you are able to apply the same theory to other people you are going to be able to diffuse and heal conflict situations much faster and more effectively than you could imagine. Remember, it is not just about your feelings. Your partner has feelings too and they are just as valid. Recognizing the validity of both your feelings is the key to maintaining your marriage in crisis. Understanding others is a skill that is especially lacking in marriages in crisis. The person you love is the one person other than yourself that you should try to understand better. In the same way your actions are influenced by your thoughts, your partner acts according to their thoughts.
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And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
