I had something inappropriate I was going to say about whacking wood and girly magazines, but I thought better of it, thankfully. It IS Sunday. 1968? Did you see my momma in any of those mags, sittin' on a bike? She's the one with the really, really, tremendously---well, never mind...
By the way, I'm a little embarrassed to ask--but can some passing poster tell me how to do the quote boxes everybody uses? I've tried practicing on the technical advice thread--and I can get it to work THERE. If any kind person would like to try to explain it--bless you!--I will be most obliged. You will have to use little small words.
A long, long time ago I can still remember how my wife used to make me smile And I knew if I had my chance we could have a great romance and maybe we’d be happy for a while But my wife was depressed I understand. And along came her ex boyfriend a married man It was bad news on my door step, I couldn't take one more step, I can remember how hard I cried When I realized our marriage died But something touched me deep inside The day my true love lied CHORUS Bye, bye to my loving bride drove my Chevy to the levy with my lap top inside. I was DBing and drinking whiskey and all night. Thinking is Delia and olive going to be on tonight. Or if it’s Saffie and Yoyo it will be alright. Did you write the book of love and do you have faith in God above, if the bible tells you so, and do you believe a marriage vow, and if you do can you tell me how. You can save your mortal soul and not keep your wedding vows Well I know he’s not in love with you. Cuz you were just something he could screw. Do you really think he will leave his wife for you? I was a lonely teenage bronkin buck with a pink carnation and a pick up truck but I knew I was out of luck, the day, my marriage, died. I started singing... CHORUS Bye, bye to my loving bride drove my Chevy to the levy with my lap top inside. I was DBing and drinking whiskey and all night. Thinking is hope and Cades going to be on tonight. Or if it’s Chicki and Sara it will be alright.
Husband I got too much time on my hands
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Ok the book is pretty good. It would be nice if I was reading with my wife and we both took part in the exercises. Now Theo is one to give lists. Here is one from the book about changing you mind set and I am priming this out and carring a copy with me and putting one at my desk at work and anywhere I can to remind me.
Change of mindset Part of this process involves a change of attitude. You are going to need to look at the type of language you use and how this affects the way you look at things. When I refer to the type of language you use, I mean the reasons you give for doing things, and the excuses you give for not doing things. Reasons, excuses, and feelings are all things that can sharply affect the way you look at issues. It is all about attitude, and this in turn affects our behaviors. This can influence the way we react to the situation we are in. You can either blame others or outside factors for the situation you are in, or you can take control of how you get yourself out of this situation. It all starts with a good attitude.
Negative Attitude Proactive and Positive Attitude I can’t.....................I choose If only.....................I will try I have to do it.............I will choose an appropriate response There is nothing I can do...Let’s look at the alternatives They made me do it..........I choose to react They make me so angry.......I am in control of my feelings I must......................I prefer I don’t have the time.......I choose to let time control me That’s just me..............I can choose to act differently
What we need to understand is that we can’t always control what others do to us, but we do have a choice when it comes to how we react. Yes, things from the outside can influence the things we do, but ultimately the reaction we have is entirely our choice. Another example of this would be when someone makes us feel upset. Someone saying something mean to us can make us feel bad, but it is up to us how it is going to affect our day. Sometimes people don’t mean the things they say, and insults are said in the heat of the moment, specifically with the intention of hurting us. WE can choose to be upset by things, or we can choose to get past it and move on. It is important to acknowledge our feelings, but the level of the reaction and the actions we take are within our control. We are in control of our feelings.
This morning my wife was cooking some bacon and eggs. When I walked in I said "boy that smells good". I then sat down at the kithion table and started reading. My wife finished up but just made enough for her and my son. I could have been hurt, taking it personally (old Husband). But I just got up and made myself bacon and eggs. (With out banging things around) (New Husband). It was no big deal. Saved myself from having a bad day thinking about it. I don't know why she did it. Maybe she thought I already ate. It does not mater. But in the old husbands mind I would have taken personally. I can choose to react anyway I want. GAL
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
By the way, I'm a little embarrassed to ask--but can some passing poster tell me how to do the quote boxes everybody uses? I've tried practicing on the technical advice thread--and I can get it to work THERE. If any kind person would like to try to explain it--bless you!--I will be most obliged. You will have to use little small words.
Delia- Click the "QUOTE" button below. Then type below what is auto-filled in the posting box.
A long, long time ago I can still remember how my wife used to make me smile And I knew if I had my chance we could have a great romance and maybe we’d be happy for a while But my wife was depressed I understand. And along came her ex boyfriend a married man It was bad news on my door step, I couldn't take one more step, I can remember how hard I cried When I realized our marriage died But something touched me deep inside The day my true love lied
