Just hope that he plays fair and is both a good winner and a good loser.
OK, I can go along with that.

I will admit to being too serious, the type of person that would put "not a player" in my profile if I were single.

There aren't two camps of people some players and some not.
I see that better now.

Sometimes it is hard for me to think of people who post things like "Friends first? I say f*ck first, friends later because how else can you know if you want to be friends?" as not being players. I typically think those type of people really might mean F first then move on.

Anyway that was the old line of thought when I was dating. I got that impression form a couple of guys in the Army barracks who sort of bragged about their sexcapades. In addition, there were a couple of mechanics I work along side that had similar attitudes. I didn't like the guys in general. They were self-centered and didn't care about other people much. I can see they didn't have a sense of fair play within them self.

Anyway, at the moment, for better or worse, I am involved in a proto-relationship in which we are both self-aware meta-players.
Well, that sounds like a fair and balanced R. Something for FOX News??? Just kidding! OK, serious. That's kool.

Everybody wants a mix of "play" and "comfort" in a relationship. Different people have different tastes but in general a relationship with no salt is about as appealing as no sodium soup, you might think it would be good for you but it's so "blah" you just won't want to eat at all........(goes along with)....the same problem a lot of the LDW have but just with a different twist

The important thing to remember is that "play" is "fun" and "fun" is "attractive" and "sexy."
So true grasshopper.

Will he run in terror from the huge bland suffocating bountiful domesticity of my cow?
I hope he has enough smarts to see that is part of you and people need to accept the whole package, not just the fun parts.

Do I have enough wild cards left in my hand to keep playing? Do I even have a clue what I'm playing for?
Well, compared to some person I know very well (BB) you have lots of cards to play.

And as to why you are playing, I would say it was because you missed the "monkey times" for so many years.

Interesting views Mojo. I have always been on the conservative, safe, comfort side of this R stuff. It's enlightening to hear how it can be different for someone on the other side of the spectrum. I still don’t like to see anyone get hurt too much when or if a R breaks up. One reason why I tend to go at a snail’s pace.

Lou