Ok, I'll be completely honest here. First of all, do you have the children w/ you? What kind of example would their mother be setting if she did come back? If you can raise them by yourself in a much better way than she was raised, it seems to me that that would be the best way to go. I just don't see her changing unless she gets a lot of help. That could take years. I guess I agree, *assume* she's not coming back, get YOUR life together for yourself and your children and do the right thing. If she ends up getting help and comes back a *changed woman* then take it from there. I just don't see staying w/ her for the children b/c she is NOT going to be a good example for them anyway. You are going to need to be their example and make sure that that *other life* that your W is leading is not a part of your children's lives.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
