OK, so the past few days I have been really busy with my job, and just minding my own business. Haven't spoke to her since last week's incident (see previous post in this thread). So, there is a business associate of mine who gave me some advice, along the lines of an extreme 180. He said to just stop showing any emotion, don't let her know I want her back, and from now on just act like I don't care either way what she does, as if I'm just totally indifferent to her. He knows my W, and told me she is a serious taker, a master manipulator, very selfish, and that I have been too generous and reliable for her over the years and that she has taken advantage of me to the point where she no longer feels I am a challenge, and that she doesn't respect me because I let her either get away with taking advantage of me, or blow my top when I've had enough. His advice is that I should have been calmly standing up to her all along and letting her chase me a bit (even within our marriage) because she is this way. He also described her as an "emotional predator", meaning she looks for those she can take advantage of. She is very intelligent and calculating when she wants something, and he says the only way to earn respect back from her is to just basically ignore her, and to take the ball back into my court by taking steps to get a place of my own, then just tell her what I am doing once it's in motion.
Are we married? Yeah, that might work but at what cost? It certainly worked with me. Maybe it is all a big misunderstanding or a strange kind of stand off but I am the one doing the DBing now but I am ready to throw in the towel soon. My H also accused me of the same things you mention about your W.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
